"Love is blind, but Marriage restores its sight."
Georg Lichtenberg
You alone are complete. God made each of us 100% complete. You don't need another person to complete you. Marriage is not 50-50 but 100-100. In Marriage, each person brings their completeness and joins it to one another. No one should marry because they feel needy, or feel incomplete. Your contentment, fulfillment and happiness cannot be dependent upon another person. Before you marry you are one, and after you marry you are still one. Marriage is not designed to make two, but to make two, one.
Each person must be totally committed to the Marriage Covenant and fulfill their roles 100%. Marriage will never succeed where there is a weak commitment or where an independent spirit exists. A husband must love his wife as Christ loves the Church, lead her, provide for her completely and manage his household properly. A wife must honor and obey her husband and serve as his helper.
This is God's pattern for success. But when people act in desperation they overlook or push aside whatever it is that would, and should concern them about the person that are about to join themselves to. Living alone can be difficult but not nearly as stressful as living with an incompatible mate. Just ask someone who has lived through this and suffered shattered expectations which was followed by divorce.
You need to ask yourself some very clear, straight forward questions:
1: What do you expect in marriage?
2: How do you envision day to day married life to be?
3: How do you feel about having children?
4: What is your financial status?
5: How do you handle disagreements and disappointments?
6: Will you submit to Godly Authority in the home?
7: How do you envision your relationship twenty years from now?
These are some serious, honest questions you need to ask yourself, if you are seriously searching for a mate, and is contemplating Courtship, Engagement and Marriage. You have to have the right mindset. Answering those questions honestly will give you a pretty good idea if you are ready for that kind of commitment. Don't be rushed into making any decisions that you will later regret. This decision should be your's alone.
Remember you should not be looking for someone to complete you...If you think you need that, you are not ready. You should be complete in yourself.
Pray without ceasing!